Resources for Supporters
do not turn away.
It’s perfectly okay and normal to feel overwhelmed and scattered and a million other things. After I was raped, I didn’t know where to go for support. And as I looked for answers to my questions through academic research and within my faith tradition and sought emotional support from friends, I got hurt a lot. I didn’t know what I needed and I certainly didn’t know how to find things that might help: books, a therapist, etc. The internet is full of resources and yet the sheer magnitude of links of click on often kept me in my overwhelmed state.
I hope this page helps make it more simple…
What to Say When…
You don’t want to make it worse. You don’t want to say the wrong thing to a friend who tells you about their assault or in response to something in the media. But it can feel like walking on eggshells with a blindfold on.
It’s not as complicated as you might think, so I’ve created a guide to help you know how to respond in a way that might actually be helpful (and at least isn’t hurtful).
Books and websites
Being a supporter involves more than reposting things on social media. Ideally, you’ll take some time to educate yourself about sexual violence.
Statistics aren’t for everyone (though I’ve got them for you if you want them!), so I’ve compiled a list of books and websites (blogs, research, etc) that can guide you into a deeper knowledge and curiosity about the issue.
Get Involved On A Bigger scale
If you aren’t directly supporting a friend, you can still absolutely be involved in shifting our society out of rape culture. In fact, unless people are talking about and taking issue with the status quo, things will continue as they are.
I’ve got some ideas of how you can get involved, deepen the conversation and invite others to join us.